Tuesday, February 7, 2012

A Pessimist's Guide to Optimism II

Have you been practicing step one?

Step two to becoming an optimism convert is more challenging - painful. But for most pessimists, that's okay - because pain and disappointment are in the comfort zone. What is step two?

Concentrate on the good that almost happened.

During your conversion process, the devil on your shoulder *DOYS* will initially think What's going on here? He tries to talk himself out of any unnecessary worry, but step two brings on full blown nervousness and a high level of observation on DOYS' part. Can this really be happening?

Yes. Yes it can. And to a true blue pessimist, this can be the so-close-and-yet-so-far moment, a moment that can bring on heavy doubt and temptation to give up this stupid effort, since it's not going to work anyway...

To combat this dilemma, embrace the pain of second place, the disappointment of I almost did it.

Then come back next month for step three. Good luck!

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9 comments:

Miranda Hardy said...

I try to see the positive in everything.

Carolyn V said...

Yes...it almost happened. ;)

Laraine Eddington said...

My Mom's motto has always been "Assume the Best, Look for the Good". She practices it and it is a legacy to her eleven kids, including me.

Crystal Cook said...

Wow. Just the kind of post a pessimist like me needed. :)

Loree Huebner said...

I loved this!

I do celebrate the small successes and second bests. They are just as important.

Leslie Rose said...

I believe I will take your advice. I'm really great at helping other people see the best in things and really lousy at doing it myself.

Julie said...

This is definitely a tough one, but great advice. I am the world's worst pessimist so I am going to give it a try, and come back again for step 3!

Catherine Lavoie said...

Yes! I've been looking forward to Step 2! :) This one is going to be tough but I'll give it my best shot. (See? I'm already quite optimist.) Bring on Step 3!

Jennifer Lane said...

Did you know that Olympic bronze medalists tend to feel happier and more satisfied than Olympic silver medalists?